The Importance of Mentorship
I am a huge fan of mentors. I'm an open book with people I trust, and there's nothing more educational that learning from people who have been through the tough times and figured out solutions to things that aren't written in text books. Whether it's a mentor in parenting, business, relationships, marriage, there is always someone that is willing to be your guiding light through the things that they don't have a " for dummies" book for. Not only do you learn so much from them, they help push you in the right direction and somehow make you want to be a better person.
Below are what I look for in a mentor and A few things they have taught me....
Someone who encourages you to be you.
Someone who will focus on your strengths and isn't tearing down all of your flaws is the most empowering feeling. For instance, I sometimes I find myself to be shy when it comes to prospecting for business, and the one thing that my business mentor Brad Umansky said to me that has always stuck with me was "Be Bold." I have grown up always being concerned with what everyone thought, and when someone told me to be bold, I felt empowered. Brad knows that I am bubbly, and sometimes loud, and instead of trying to muzzle me he encourages me to be myself. It has helped me tremendously not only in this business, but in every aspect of my life.
someone who is ruthless
A good mentor won't be afraid to give you the cold hard truth about something. One of mentors will easily tell me without hesitation "Why would you even do that? You'll be making the same mistakes over again." They usually follow it with a better solution to the problem. But they will always be honest. They're not honest to be mean, but they're honest because they will tell you what you need to hear, and not what you want to hear.
Someone who focuses on Morals & Values
I'm all about ethics. If your mentor is doing some questionable things, chances are they will steer you to do the same. Sure it may sound attractive because it's probably a shortcut to something, or may even give you more dollars at the end of the day. But you can't put a price on piece of mind, and I personally can't sleep at night knowing I did something unethical. I know people who will risk relationships and respect from others just to close a deal. The last thing you want is the reputation that you will step on someone's toes to get paid.
Mentorship is a two way street
You get what you give. If you don't follow up with your mentor or give them updates, chances are they're not going to come after you. A mentor isn't your babysitter, your mentor is your trusted adviser, guru, and guide. It is not their job to follow with you on your business. If they are successful in their business, it's also because they are busy with it. Always keep your appointments with them, and always check in with them.
Don't be afraid to seek a mentor
If you end up building a relationship you want to learn from, ask them if they can mentor you. They too have their own mentors that helped guide the way for them and helped get them to where they are today, and they probably want to pay it forward too. Mentor's also learn from their mentee's, and as much as their investing in you, they are also aware that you too are investing in them.
Always show respect and gratitude
The best way to pay a mentor back is through respect and gratitude. If you respect them and are loyal to them, they will return the favor. Gratitude is always the best way to pay someone back. Send a hand written note on a new accomplishment and how their guidance, helped get you there. There is no such thing as a self made person. Every successful person has had some help to get to where they are now. Never forget how you got somewhere, and who helped you along the way.
What are some things that you have learned from your mentors or mentees? I'd love to hear about it!